ok, here’s the piece i just submitted for a Village Voice sex column.  The question i was asked was “blowjobs: do you like giving them?”  With a few follow-up questions.  I think you’ll get the point.

I love sucking cock. Seriously, I love it. I think the only thing more pleasurable for me is hearing the exhalations of joy that come from lovers – the ooohs and uhhhs. And when my lover reaches down and pulls my hair, I can’t help but give a deep mmmm. I’m their own persynal vibrating cock sock.

For me, any situation is good. I just wait for a lover to ask those four words, “wanna suck my cock?” Or even better, comes up from behind, tugs slightly on my hair while caressing my neck and says, “I want you to suck my cock.” I can barely get out a yes before I’m on my knees and touching myself.

I think a common misconception about those of us that like to give head is that we are submissive. No, no, no. I love the control of it. I can make a lover yearn, plead, demand, skirm, sing, giggle, twitch, it all depends on how I move, where I touch, and what I want. I’m in control by giving them what they so desperately want.

Its about more than an act, though. For me, a genderQueer trannyfag, sucking cock is also about my gender expression. For most folks, fag has a connotation of maleness – a man sucking off a man. But I am genderQueer, I don’t identify as a man or a woman. But I identify as a fag simply because I’m a Queer who loves sucking cock. It doesn’t have to be a penis, either. That’s a limiting definition of cock, if you ask me. I don’t care if the cock is six inches or a sixth of an inch, the pleasure is all the same. I’ve also found those same ooohs and uhhhs while sucking on a silicon strap-on; it all depends on desire. I guess you could say that sucking cock, for me, is a matter of sexual liberation and gender liberation.